Have you ever had a 24 hour first date that you spent about 20 of them talking?? This was the first thing of many that Bruce and I found to be abnormal. Not once in those 24 hours did I ever look at my watch. It just flowed...easy!
OK...back to the initial meeting. We met at a Coffee Bean since I am a Coffee Bean Slut:) I got there first, but as I was texting him, he texted that he was there. I was very nervous to lay eyes on him. His pictures were amazing. His emails were amazing. His phone conversation was amazing. I REALLY wanted him to match all of this in person, but statistically, the odds were against me. I don't think I mentioned that Bruce is black. I have had many dates with man from other races; this is not a problem with me!! However, I can't deny that my family would have to get use to this characteristic in my man if I ever got serious about one. I have no doubt that they would accept him if he was the right guy, but they might have to process it for a minute...if you know what I mean...any Midwest readers out there? I remember the feeling I got when I saw Bruce. I liked what I saw ALOT, but more importantly, I got this feeling of relief...calmness...at peace. From the very first moment, he made me feel at home with being beside him.
Bruce told me to "not even think about it" when I tried to get my wallet out to pay. This sounds so trivial, but all I want is someone to pay for the first meeting. After that, I'm completely fine with splitting it, but I still believe that the guy should handle the first date. Conversation was wonderful! He did ask plenty of questions, and I was worried that I wasn't asking enough. However, I really don't know how I could have gotten in any more if I tried:) I've noticed on many first dates that as I'm answering or asking questions, I'm wondering in my head how the guy is perceiving me. This time I was hoping he was liking what he was hearing. A thought I have never had before!
After about an hour, Bruce asked if I was hungry. With a smile on my face because I didn't want the date to end either, I said yes. Then, he said the most amazing thing..."how about In N Out." A man after my own heart!!! Honestly, I still didn't know if he was interested or if he was just hungry. It wasn't until he hip checked me at the register while we were ordering that I realized that he was flirting:) Bruce worked for his apartment complex, and he had to work later that evening, so he invited me back for a game of rummy. Rummy is the reason I responded to his email in the first place. Of course the situation I had with the guy that only had two mattresses ran through my mind. My gut told me that there was nothing to be afraid of...plus, I had already told Bruce that story in our phone conversation. I agreed, and we started walking back to our cars. This is when I noticed that he was a gentleman! He HAD to walk on the outside and open my car door for me (the first time of many).
The rest of the night was amazing! We played rummy, which I kicked his butt at!! I walked with him on his rounds. We ordered pizza. This whole time conversation was never at a stand still, and I never held back. I always said exactly what was on my mind and didn't think twice while doing it. Before I knew it, it was 4am, and my eyes were getting heavy. This is when Bruce did a very gutsy thing...he pulled his mattress out in the living room. He knew the mattress story, and he still brought it out. Plus, at this point, we hadn't touched. Even after that, I never felt like Bruce was going to try anything, and I was correct. He was a complete gentleman!! We ended up talking even more before we got a few hours sleep. When we woke up, he took me to breakfast. Throughout the meal, there were many comments made about the length of our "abnormal" first date:)
It was perfect! I wouldn't have changed anything about our first meeting! It was one of those times that you just can't stop thinking about the other person!! Its that feeling that we all wish for!!
Stay tuned!!!!
Kiki
Monday, January 30, 2012
Sunday, January 8, 2012
Buying a New Car
About six months ago, I started my search for a new car. My first car was the first thing I ever bought with my own hard earned money, and she held a very special place in my heart. She wasn't the most fashionable vehicle, but she made me feel safe. Being a 1997 Chevy Lumina, she was referred to as a "grandma car" very often. As I started looking and researching, I realized that brand names or colors didn't matter to me. Of course money was a concern, but I know I would have figured out a payment plan on any kind of car. What I discovered was that I wanted my new vehicle to be unique!!! It had to stand apart from the average piece of metal on four wheels. I'm not talking about being the prettiest or coolest, but just having that little something that makes people want to know more. I came to the conclusion that this is what I want in my man!!!!!!!! I want them to be uniquely special in some way....any way!!!!
As I look back on the men that have made it past the first date, the only thing that stands out in my mind was the way they peaced out:) So...I decided to keep an open mind. I reactivated my profile on Plenty of Fish, and just started talking! I didn't look at distance, height, race, occupation, etc. Physical attraction still has to be there, so I looked at pictures and read profiles. One man started to jump off the screen. Bruce emailed me first with a subject line of "pick me." I went to his profile before reading his message. I remembered seeing Bruce's profile months before but never contacting him. He was VERY attractive...maybe to the point of being too good looking. Most man that look like that act a certain way, and I normally steer clear of them. However, I was keeping an open mind! There were multiple things in his profile that intrigued me. First, he quoted an animated film that I love, and asked to see if anyone could name it. Then, he stated that he enjoyed play Rummy and Speed. Growing up, I played Rummy every weekend with my grandparents! Finally, it stated that he didn't drink. I'm not going to lie; it would be wonderful if the man I was with knew how to function without alcohol! I messaged him back, and we started conversing. Soon after, we exchanged phone numbers. Of course texting came first and then a phone call. Through this week of initial conversation, I realized that he had dealt with alot of the same things regarding online dating. He asked several questions that hardly ever pop into my head. For example, are you married? My first response is "OF COURSE NOT." Then, I thought about it, and many people do online dating behind their spouse's back. Crazy, but true; I still can't wrap my brain around that idea!! Then there is the "you don't have kids?" for the third time. Bruce had to tell me a story about this lady that stated online that she had no kids, but then when he asked her in person, she said yes, a fifteen year old. Some girls might think Bruce was asking too many questions all at once. However, I took it as he had been burned before, and he didn't want to waste his time on people that didn't care to tell the truth about who they were! Plus, he didn't do it in an offensive way.
To say the very least, I wanted to learn more about this man! We did have some distance between us, but we planned on meeting in the middle. I have to admit that I can't even remember how many men are great on the phone and on screen, but don't even come close in person. Bruce was amazing on the screen and on the phone, so I was nervous as I was driving to meet him. I was prepping myself for the worst, so anything would feel like a success:)
Since this is the worst possible time to stop writing that is exactly what I am going to do;) Stay tuned to see if Bruce was just as great in person or not????
xoxo
Kiki
PS I bought a Nissan Cube!!
As I look back on the men that have made it past the first date, the only thing that stands out in my mind was the way they peaced out:) So...I decided to keep an open mind. I reactivated my profile on Plenty of Fish, and just started talking! I didn't look at distance, height, race, occupation, etc. Physical attraction still has to be there, so I looked at pictures and read profiles. One man started to jump off the screen. Bruce emailed me first with a subject line of "pick me." I went to his profile before reading his message. I remembered seeing Bruce's profile months before but never contacting him. He was VERY attractive...maybe to the point of being too good looking. Most man that look like that act a certain way, and I normally steer clear of them. However, I was keeping an open mind! There were multiple things in his profile that intrigued me. First, he quoted an animated film that I love, and asked to see if anyone could name it. Then, he stated that he enjoyed play Rummy and Speed. Growing up, I played Rummy every weekend with my grandparents! Finally, it stated that he didn't drink. I'm not going to lie; it would be wonderful if the man I was with knew how to function without alcohol! I messaged him back, and we started conversing. Soon after, we exchanged phone numbers. Of course texting came first and then a phone call. Through this week of initial conversation, I realized that he had dealt with alot of the same things regarding online dating. He asked several questions that hardly ever pop into my head. For example, are you married? My first response is "OF COURSE NOT." Then, I thought about it, and many people do online dating behind their spouse's back. Crazy, but true; I still can't wrap my brain around that idea!! Then there is the "you don't have kids?" for the third time. Bruce had to tell me a story about this lady that stated online that she had no kids, but then when he asked her in person, she said yes, a fifteen year old. Some girls might think Bruce was asking too many questions all at once. However, I took it as he had been burned before, and he didn't want to waste his time on people that didn't care to tell the truth about who they were! Plus, he didn't do it in an offensive way.
To say the very least, I wanted to learn more about this man! We did have some distance between us, but we planned on meeting in the middle. I have to admit that I can't even remember how many men are great on the phone and on screen, but don't even come close in person. Bruce was amazing on the screen and on the phone, so I was nervous as I was driving to meet him. I was prepping myself for the worst, so anything would feel like a success:)
Since this is the worst possible time to stop writing that is exactly what I am going to do;) Stay tuned to see if Bruce was just as great in person or not????
xoxo
Kiki
PS I bought a Nissan Cube!!
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